The Art of Seduction: It’s Dying for Men and Growing for Women

As double standard lines between men and women are slowly eroded by society’s growing demand for gender equality, the art of seduction is gradually slipping away from the grasp of men and finding itself into the hearts and minds of women. Look around and you’ll see the truth for yourself.

The Dying Art of Seduction for Men

In the old days, it was always men who were in charge of seduction scenes. Men usually had to create elaborate plots or utter fail-proof lines to win over a woman. Nowadays, however, most men have used feminism as an excuse of becoming lazy in the field of seduction. Now, men expect women to behave just like them, and that means not requiring anything remotely seductive prior to physical intimacy. If a direct question of “do you want to have sex?” offends a woman, she only has herself to blame. After all, didn’t she want to be treated just like a man?

Doing that may work for some women, but those women only represent the minority in the female population. Women are still looking for seduction, whether they admit it or not, and it’s a man’s loss if he isn’t inclined to read between the lines.

Seduction Tips for Men

Seduction from Within – The most beautiful setting using the most amazing props will never work, even for a good-looking man, if he lacks important inner qualities. This, unfortunately, is something that most males fail to understand. Seduction is not all about creating the greatest impact. The most successful seductions ploys, in fact, sometimes require no external aid.

To successfully seduce a woman, you must first be comfortable with yourself and with what you’re doing. You must be confident about who you are and what you plan to do. You must never pretend to be anyone else except yourself. Humor is great but if you’re not the type to make jokes then don’t.

Timing is Essential – Most seduction ploys require perfect timing: when we say perfect timing, that doesn’t mean each and every minute is accounted for, but rather, it’s crucial for you to instinctively look for the right time to make the right move. Other seduction ploys however require you to rush in and not give your date time to think or even breathe.

Control, Control, Control – Repeat that to yourself every time you’re tempted to do something you already know would ruin your seduction plan. Remember: good things come to those who wait!

The Growing Art of Seduction for Women

More and more women are allowing the 21st century to vanquish their inhibitions when it comes to interaction with the opposite sex. If you’re still uncomfortable with the idea of going after your man, think about the risk you’re taking: for each second you’re waiting for him to make a move is one more second for another woman to make a move on him!

Seduction Tips for Women

Seduction from Within – Like we’ve said earlier on for the guys, it’s important that you act naturally. It’s equally important to look the “real” you as well. Women love dressing up when they’re out to seduce a man, but while it’s okay to make an effort to look good, make sure that you don’t overdo it!

Practice by Flirting – To perfect your seduction skills, practice often by flirting. Flirting is a harmless and fun activity, anyway, so there’s everything to gain and nothing to lose from it.

How to Save a Relationship After an Affair – Find Out What Was Lacking in Your Relationship

People often commit a mistake by starting an affair on the expense of their other partner. Has your relationship suffered a major setback after an affair popped up out of the blue? Well, all is not lost yet as you can still live your life with your Ex close in your arms but it all depends on whether you’re going to clean the mess up or commit more mistakes in anger or frustration.

Here are few tips to save a relationship after an affair… it will not be easy but it can be done:

Did your Ex breach your trust by starting an affair or were you the guilty party in screwing up your relationship? Irrespective of the answer to this question, one thing is for sure, a relationship only goes bad when both partners play equal role in it.

If your Ex has tricked you and you feel devastated as a result, accepting responsibility for the breakup might be a little harder for you. If you want to truly learn how to save a relationship after an affair, you need to determine whether the offender cheated because of physical or emotional needs? No matter how depressed you feel things will only change if you investigate things from the very beginning.

Right now you and your Ex have extremely strained relationship and whoever cheated on the other must be feeling really guilty and would not be able to find enough courage to talk things out. But you must understand that things can only deteriorate from here if you stop talking and blindly resume your fragile relationship. The two of you need to be honest to each other, or you cannot save a relationship after an affair.

It is a bitter truth that partners cheat because their relationship with one another is hollow. Rather than turning your face the other side and denying this fact, you will have to do some soul searching and find out which factor caused your Ex to cheat on you. Was your Ex feeling ignored? Was it just a tactic to grab some attention? Or was it simply to address the physical needs? It could be anything, and whatever it turns out to be, accept it, discuss it and make sure you address it or your relationship will never go the distance again! Now you know how to save a relationship after an affair so get moving before its too late!

Beyond Valentine’S – Love After The 14Th Of February

Author: Carolin Dahlman The Love Coach

It’s a lovely idea to spend a whole day worshipping love, taking loved ones out for dinners and buy teddy bears with cute messages. Valentine’s gives us an opportunity to celebrate our relationships.

But what about the other 364 days of the year?

Let this years Valentine celebration be a starting point for a refreshed, rejuvenated and remarkable relationship. Love and relationship coach Carolin Dahlman is helping people fall in love and stay in love, through one on one coaching. These are her tips on how to find love in your relationship, beyond Valentine’s.

1. Find out how your partner wants to be loved.

We are all different and have different needs. Most times we tend to give love in the way we would like to receive it. If you like to be touched, you are more likely to touch your partner. But what if he or she rather wants a compliment? Ask how your loved one wants to be pampered with love. How can you make them feel good? And then start giving every day… Don’t forget to share what would make you happy as well!

2. Take time to work on the relationship.

Great relationships don’t just happen. You may think that love conquers all, but why not give it a hand. Give love space in the clutter of evening classes, dishes, parental duties and shopping. Make a habit of spending just 5 minutes giving each other full attention and a kiss every morning or evening. Have a special “love time” booked in every week, when you feel the love and give, give, give.

3. Do not litter.

A lot of couple uses each other as bins for their emotional garbage. You had a bad day and your partner becomes the victim of your grumpy mood. Be careful with your littering. Your energy is contagious and your partner gets affected by you. Stop complaining, criticising or pushing. Be aware of this and start spreading positive energy. Love with your heart.

4. Focus on being happy.

If you are happy, your relationship will bloom. Take responsibility for your needs. Make your voice heard if you feel something is not right, instead of giving silent treatments or such. Figure out what is important to you, to make you feel great and be a loving and happy person to be and live with, and start meeting those needs. Exercise, meditation, time alone, time with your friends? Make sure your partner understands the importance of you getting this.

5. Be grateful for being loved.

You are in a beautiful relationship and you have a partner. You are a team. You are friends. You are each others rock, passion and inspiration. Our minds are creating our feelings. If you think of all your partner’s faults and flaws, you will feel miserable. If you think of all the fabulous traits and how happy you are for having this person in your life, you will feel the love. Your head has limited space, so fill it with positive thoughts and you will enjoy your relationship more.

Valentine’s vows

On that romantic moment you share on the 14th of February, why not take the opportunity to promise each other a year of love, and not just a day. Promise each other to make effort and build a relationship that gives you energy and happiness in your everyday life.

How can love live without the candle light dinner:

I promise you that I will ………………………………..

I would be happy if you could …………………………

Beyond Valentine’S – Love After The 14Th Of February

Author: Carolin Dahlman The Love Coach

It’s a lovely idea to spend a whole day worshiping love, taking loved ones out for dinners and buy teddy bears with cute messages. Valentine’s gives us an opportunity to celebrate our relationships.

But what about the other 364 days of the year?
Let this years Valentine celebration be a starting point for a refreshed, rejuvenated and remarkable relationship. Love and relationship coach Carolin Dahlman is helping people fall in love and stay in love, through one on one coaching. These are her tips on how to find love in your relationship, beyond Valentine’s.
1.      Find out how your partner wants to be loved.
We are all different and have different needs. Most times we tend to give love in the way we would like to receive it. If you like to be touched, you are more likely to touch your partner. But what if he or she rather wants a compliment? Ask how your loved one wants to be pampered with love. How can you make them feel good? And then start giving every day… Don’t forget to share what would make you happy as well!
2.      Take time to work on the relationship.
Great relationships don’t just happen. You may think that love conquers all, but why not give it a hand. Give love space in the clutter of evening classes, dishes, parental duties and shopping. Make a habit of spending just 5 minutes giving each other full attention and a kiss every morning or evening. Have a special “love time” booked in every week, when you feel the love and give, give, give.
3.      Do not litter.
A lot of couple uses each other as bins for their emotional garbage. You had a bad day and your partner becomes the victim of your grumpy mood. Be careful with your littering. Your energy is contagious and your partner gets affected by you. Stop complaining, criticizing or pushing. Be aware of this and start spreading positive energy. Love with your heart.
4.      Focus on being happy.
If you are happy, your relationship will bloom. Take responsibility for your needs. Make your voice heard if you feel something is not right, instead of giving silent treatments or such. Figure out what is important to you, to make you feel great and be a loving and happy person to be and live with, and start meeting those needs. Exercise, meditation, time alone, time with your friends? Make sure your partner understands the importance of you getting this.
5.      Be grateful for being loved.
You are in a beautiful relationship and you have a partner. You are a team. You are friends. You are each others rock, passion and inspiration. Our minds are creating our feelings. If you think of all your partner’s faults and flaws, you will feel miserable. If you think of all the fabulous traits and how happy you are for having this person in your life, you will feel the love. Your head has limited space, so fill it with positive thoughts and you will enjoy your relationship more.
Valentine’s vows
On that romantic moment you share on the 14th of February, why not take the opportunity to promise each other a year of love, and not just a day. Promise each other to make effort and build a relationship that gives you energy and happiness in your everyday life.
How can love live without the candle light dinner:
I promise you that I will ………………………………..
I would be happy if you could …………………………
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